I just recently noticed that the Las Vegas Fetish and Fantasy Ball has another new venue opening up this year. Tampa, watch out, here we come!

I haven’t missed by one ball in almost 10 years of attending it. It’s random venues and attempts to have some extended events have always had troubles (Katrina squashed the New Orleans venture) but this time, I am whole heartedly excited about seeing Tampa, Florida get this crazy crowd in a bit more risque fashion than what they bargained for!

Las Vegas has definitely placed itself in a the “non-Sin City” category as the restrictions for dress, attire and activities have affected and slowly started to take the Party-Pooper syndrome to a whole new high. It seems though, that Tampa has not felt the flamboyant crowds that dawn anonymity masks and come out to show more skin than most Nip and Tuck doctors would see in a lifetime. I imagine that after this year, they too will start to enhance their decency laws and city statutes just like Vegas did.

The entertainment that visits our Vegas Ball will also be attending the Tampa Ball, giving a mirror image for what fun and fetish provides to the Sin City with some added new faces of Gothic, morbid and unusual entertainment. I will be excited to see what happens and will be excited to see more cohorts in crime weather they just be voyeurs, fetish lovers, submissive souls or Dominate Diva’s.

To check out more about the dates, and information, check out the website at: www.halloweenball.com

Meanwhile, to find out if I will be in attendance check back at my site at: www.ladyvelvetnoir.com

Maybe one or two of my lucky callers will be allowed to escort me through the halls of revelers and partiers!

Sometimes you just need that break in the week that breaks up the first part of it and the last part.  I found My break.  In fact,  think I broke My new toy!

Needing to curb the craving of a red ass high in the air begging for some more strikes of My whip, I dressed myself in my Sunday best.  Although I can’t imagine that my Sunday best would be allowed in any church courtyard.  I could just picture the Reverend staring down my cleavage and his wife mumbling ‘Harlot’ under her breath from the front pew as the bulg in her husbands pants continued to grow. Knowing she had no control over it, and that he would keep the sermon short for obvious reasons was shear delight in My eyes.  But that would be another fun endeavor….

I dressed in my best and strutted out to another Hole-in-the-Wall pub on the opposite side of town.  I was sure that I wouldn’t bump into anyone that knew me there, and if it was a dark enough bar, not many would even know the torment that I was thinking with a sly and evil look on my face.

I drove across town plotting, planning and smiling the entire way.  I grew more excited knowing that some poor sap would end up at My hands that night and he wouldn’t be expecting that his ego would get todded down a touch.

Arriving at a grungy looking shack that sat back off the street, I closed, locked up the car, and in turn clacked My way into the Bar in my 4″ stilletos and Cuban silk stalkings.  The back light that escorted me into this dank bar kept many from seeing my details and most didn’t pay much heed until I walked past and My perfume emanated into the room.  I actually found this quite amusing, considering I was not wearing a typical perfume.  I enjoy oils and so it was a custom blend that was given to Me by one of My favorite boy toys (thank you bitchboy I still wear it*winks*).

Heads turned and they noise in the room died down as their eyes adjusted to the dim lighting and My heels continued to clack across the cement floor to a stool at the back ind of the bar.  I knew, as this is a typical place, that before I sat down, the bartender was providing me with a drink courtesy of someone at the bar or even themselves.

“Merlot,” I requested.

I lit up a cigarette and watched the TV in front of Me, complete dis concerned with what was actually on it. It took only about 5 minutes before I was approached.  I smelled the leather before it even got to Me and his boots thudded against the floor cause the vibration to tantalize Me through the bar stool.

“You look a bit out of place young lady,” a deep voice uttered as he took seat next to Me.

I didn’t turn My head, but answered with My quippy sense of humor, “and you look over dressed.  But if you were undressed, you be much more out of place here than you would be in My chambers.”

Taking a long draw on my cigarette and sipping My wine, I heard him chuckle to himself. “A smart woman who knows what she wants, intriguing and unusual.”

I looked over and give him a quirky sly grin. “You have NO idea,” and returned to watching what played in front of me on the TV.

“Can I buy You a drink, ” he asked.

“No,” I snapped.

His shocked looked was amusing and in turn the hand that ran free from My cigarette found his crotch and squeezed aggressively.  He jumped and I chuckled keeping a firm hold on the family jewels.  “You can follow Me though.”

“Where to?” he asked.

“Either you will or you won’t.  If you do, then know I will turn your world upside down, if you don’t know that you will always question yourself and wonder what you missed.”

I crushed out my cigarette, and sipped down the rest of the wine.  I chuckled to myself and looked at My watch.  I thought to Myself, “15 minutes, not a bad record for getting a blind puppy dog to follow Me to My heaven and their hell.”

Grabbing my hand bag and sliding from the stool, My heels started down the aisle and behind me, the boots of a biker and His leather jacket followed very close behind Me to the parking lot.  I knew I had what I needed to curb the hunger and the craving to get Me through the rest of the week.

A new toy to play with, and the evening had just started.

Being an animal lover, especially dogs, my home has lacked that companionship for quite sometime after losing my last beautiful dog to cancer. The house and office were both quite as My animals always travel with me, from home, work and even sometimes play, providing a wonderful sense of security even in the most awkward and threatening of positions.

Today though, was a day in which I didn’t expect. Traveling in and out of my local animal shelters, I came face to face with the most beautiful, and unbelievable animal. My newest family member now weighs in a 150 pounds (and is ‘underweight’ according to my vet) and should weigh at least another 25 pounds or more! He has found himself welcomed, loved and comfortable in his new home, and now I, feel like my life is just a bit more fulfilling by offering this beautiful dog a wonderful home and unconditional love.

His breed (and he is full blooded) can go for as much 2K for a puppy, but believe it or not, I rescued this one for under a C note. I have truthfully wondered why anyone would put an animal like this into the pound. My travels through the overcrowded conditions of the shelters gave me more than one tear to stream down my cheek and if there is anything that I URGE everyone to do is to shut down the puppy mills, the irresponsible owners who don’t fix their dogs, and go find your local shelter and ADOPT!

Our shelters here are filled with not only dogs and cats, but hamster, rats, tons of bunnies, peacocks, pigs and chickens… not to mention other exotic animals. Please, reconsider buying from a pet store and in turn please visit your local shelter. One less animal in there makes a warm and loving home somewhere else. Give them ALL a chance! I have rescued everyone of my animals, and they have been the most rewarding companions ever!

Visit the local pages below to find where you can give a loving home to a beautiful animal or to donate to help keep the shelters comfortable and clean:

http://www.aspca.org

http://www.canines.com/

http://www.novoiceunheard.org/

http://www.akc.org/

Now, back to our regularly scheduled kink!

Cum visit me at www.ladyvelvetnoir.com

There are times when I truly feel that there is a point in time when things are relative. This being definitely one of them. A friend of mine constantly states:

“Perception is reality to those who perceive it.”

Couldn’t be more truthful.

So this morning as I was reading and doing some research the age old questions was approached: IS Phone Sex or Cyber Sex the same as cheating?

Truthfully, I can’t answer that for everyone. For me, no, it’s not. But in truth, the idea that it is cheating is a very real problem for many couples as the internet makes it easier to anonymously access and feed their fetishes. Some may see this behavior as a way of feeding sexual addiction, but at the same time, you have to see things on the realm that what he is doing is safe, secure and healthy. For instance, if he were to identify that he had had a real time encounter, my biggest concern would be regarding the disease factor. At least over the internet, and over a phone, you KNOW that he is being careful about disease and considering your safety and factor as well.

Second, sometimes men (and I know this because I am a real time Domme and phone sex operator in the business for 10+ years) need an outlet that is more than what they feel comfortable with telling someone they love. For instance, maybe he has a fantasy regarding Dominating a woman or even submitting to one, where they feel the activities are too extreme to follow through in real life but will ‘explode’ if they don’t have some kind of outlet. The only way to overcome this ideal is to open up and possibly have some of those taboo discussions with him/her in order to open the gates to more honesty and unreserved conversations. It is completely natural to have these fantasies, and only some will act on them. Some, in turn, feel that the only way to indulge is to do so online or over a phone. Either way, it is a conversation that they are probably having difficulties addressing with you, OR have tried to and found it too un-fulfilling because their partner is not willing to even address it.

On the flip side, Dominating men struggle with the ethical ideal of having that sadistic side to them and know or feel that it is inappropriate to indulge in those tendencies. The ONLY time I feel it is appropriate in a real time environment is when the adults involved are consensual and ONLY then. I do not condone abuse nor do I support it whether it be mental, physical or emotional. However, if done correctly, these types of relationships are the most intense, loving and secure relationships than any ‘normal’ (by society standards) I have ever seen, basing it on a 100% honesty and trust and communication.

Addicts are those who have a tendency to show the following signs:

1. Their addiction is costing them more than they can spend. Whether it be financially, time, or even emotional standing, it does begin to affect all three severely.
2. Addicts will risk ANYTHING to feed their addiction, including health, career, education and all types of relationships;
3. Addicts typically are insistent on feeding their addiction more and more. Meaning that if they started online and after years are just indulging online or over the phone more than likely they will not pursue something in real time. Addicts are normally not content with just online or phone materials to feed their addiction.

Remember, the safety that they feel they have with the World Wide Web or just a phone call is real. They can anonymously confess, enact or just plain have an ear that will listen safely and securely. Don’t judge to harshly what your boyfriend (and what Gillian) is doing. Their might be something lacking (or not) in their lives that they are too embarrassed to convey to their partners. If that is the case, then open the gate for him. Give him just a bit of tolerance and see if you can’t be the focus of his fantasies by doing so.

I am not saying accept their behavior as ultimately you have to do what is right for you. 10 years ago if you had asked me if I would be doing this, I too would baulked at the idea, but since then, I do feel I have not offered a service to those who need a safe way to express themselves, but I have found that become an open minded individual and non-judgmental about people’s taboos (unless it involves innocence of children and animals) has made my life less stressful and I continue to learn a great deal about people, life and human nature.

As a quick note:
If you are craving what you need and online is enough, great, however, if it is not, PLEASE be sure that you find a local group and mentoring situation that makes your search a safe, sane and consensual one. There are far too many predators out there.

Here are some Community resources that might be of interest to you:

http://www.pakratpress.com/sinergy/comunity/groups.htm

http://www.fetbot.com/Links/Lifestyle/Organizations/

http://www.the-crucible.com/groups.htm

I am sure that there are many more good resources out there, so please feel free to send me your resource so I can ad it to my ever growing list of SSC/RACK links.

Lady Velvet Noir

For more information on me, please visit me at www.LadyVelvetNoir.com

After a long vacation and putting some efforts into a really long process of helping out another business, I now have another billing option for both my callers AND my members. Today, I officially launch both of them and have officially become part of www.SluttyPhoneGirls.com. I highly recommend checking out the other ladies online there too. They are pretty amazing and some are definitely worth contacting for appointments if you don’t see them online.

As some of my callers know, I do prefer making appointments myself because then we have all the time to talk and get down and dirty together, but I am definitely up for those last minute calls too.

For now, I have tons to talk about regarding my vacation and so much more to discuss as time goes!

Look forward to hearing from my naughty boys again!